When Dad Is Mum Too

Parenting isn’t easy. It’s tougher still if you’re suddenly rendered single, and more so for the single father. So how do single fathers cope with the challenge of filling the physical and emotional vacuum left by the absent mother? Asha Chowdary and Lhendup Bhutia find out

Father & Son [Pictures]

Dad. [Poetry D4]

You left me a long time ago.
You wouldn’t know me if I walked up to you.
Even though everyone says I am a spitting image.

Does it make you happy.
To know that you left me here in this world.
So alone and cold, to live on my own.

I hate admitting that I miss you.
I don’t even know you, even though I should.
Even though that little paper says your my Dad.

I can’t understand why you don’t call.
I don’t think you’ve ever missed me at all.
It’s no suprise, I never took you for the caring type.

I wish that you could be here now.
I want you to see me grow up and be happy.
But you never will, I wonder how that makes you feel.

I am your daughter, and you, your my father.
But there will always be a barrier that keeps us apart.
Lack, thereof, love.

Please don’t say I never tried.
Dammit, I tried too damn hard to make you love me.
People are stubborn, I know, I get it from you.

I love you Dad, I think.
I don’t know you, anymore, but you are blood.
Blood is supposed to be thicker than water.

I used to think I was the dissapointment.
No, Dad, you are and you always were.
I am not perfect but God forbid I turn into you.

Your a heartless son of a bitch.
You turn your back on your daughter.
You turned your back on me and I hate you for that.

I wanted to say that I miss you.
That I do unfotunately have love left for you.
See you in hell.

Written by Kayla

Resources For Fathers

• The Fatherhood Institute: the UK’s fatherhood think-tank
  http://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org
• Dads-Space a website offering no nonsense information, fun and advice for dads.
  http://www.dads-space.com

(more to come)

Nineteen things to say to your children…

1. I love you! There is nothing that will make me stop loving you. Nothing you could do or say or think will ever change that.
2. You are amazing! I look at you with wonder! Not just at what you can do, but who you are. There is no one like you. No one!
3. It’s all right to cry. People cry for all kinds of reasons: when they are hurt, sad, glad, or worried; when they are angry, afraid, or lonely. Big people cry too. I do.

I Am Your Child!

I am a child of divorce. My parent`s divorce became finalized in 1969 when I was six years old. My mother was granted sole custody and my father never fought it.

I am writing this because I wish to see change. Change in a system that helped to alter my relationship with my father for the duration of our lives. Our lives, he being 600 miles away at 52 years old, seem all too short.

We started out fairly normal. I remember watching a football game with him, smelling my mom`s pot roast in the air, being carried around on his shoulders, waiting for him to come home from work. A father-daughter relationship firmly rooted for growth.

Daughter’s Comment on Perverted Dad’s Facebook Status

Perverted Dad

You also might want to read: I Am Your Child!

Night Terrors & Bad Dreams (Toddlers/Kids/Children)

Just a few minutes ago i witnessed Lewis having what at first i thought was a a really bad dream. i google “bad dreams in kids” (or something like that) to find the cause of bad dreams out of curiousity.

After reading one or two search results i found out that what he had infact had was a Night Terror not a really really bad dream…

A Night Terror is where a child wakes up screaming with her eyes wide open, when in actual fact s/he is still asleep. The child will suddenly sit up, usually sweating profusely, shout out loud for a few seconds, before lying back down and returning to a normal sleep.

My Potty Book For Boys [Book Review]

It was the first potty training book that read.  Lewis had just turned 2 at the time. Borrowed from our local library we’d gone there specifically looking ofr a potty training  book after being adviced to read one by a friend who i’d shared my concerned about a previous unsuccessfully attempt at potty training.

Dads Will Love These Stollers…

How about that aye? A military inspired stroller!

I’ll gladly push this one any day but my  favourite of these strollers is the badass Oakley Roddler…

Healthy Varied Diet: not so hard after all

untill recently well, not so recently about a year ago when  i became the main carer of son i didnt know what a healthy diet was. i was going through the masses of paper work in my room when i came across some of the hand outs given to me in a Health and Nutrition class i took a few months ago.

for more nutrition information… tips, myths, recipes, labels and more i highly recomend the Food Standards Agency website.
http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/eatwellplate/

find hundreds of recipes on the bbc recipes website. click here.

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Men’s genes ‘may limit lifespan’

mmmh those mad scientists are at it again… this time claiming that men have a specific gene that allows us to grow bigger boddies but at the expense of longevity and that this gene is only passed down by our sperm.

When Will Pizza Hut Do These? [Video]

the only thing pizza hut is missing is this box

Potty Training

My son is 2 and 4 months and i feel time is running out  for him to start using the potty. i feel under pressure to teach him the his toilet skills. either he learns to do it now or be laughed at by other parents .

Parenting Skills: Learnt OR Instinct?

Parenting… everyone’s got their own definition to it.

when i took over the care of my son a year ago the fear of failing him as a parent kicked in, i was so scared of not doing it right the first time round and turning out like my parents. for many years i’d promised myself to be a better parent than mine were to me.